To Pursue or Not

[twinmom]

I wanted to respond to your post a few days ago. I have just been way too busy to give it the proper time. Piecing is when your wife comes to you and states SHE wants to work on your marriage.
Sorry love but you're still going in the opposite direction. You really need to stop the pursuit. God I know how hard it is! But your wife will not view you in a positive light if you continue on this path.

You talk about your wife losing weight, would it be healthy for you to do the same? It doesn't matter if it is a MLC or not the advice is the same.

Taking the Christmas tree without a conversation was a jerk move. But recover from this and show her you're fine by getting another one (even a small fake one) and having the kids make paper/craft style ornaments.
Every year my kids make cinnamon applesauce ornaments
2 cups cinnamon
1 cup applesauce
Add more of each ingredient if needed to reach play doh consistency. Roll out and cut with cookie cutters. Use a straw to make a hole for the string. Place them on a cookie sheet and bake in the oven at 225° for about 3-5 hours depending on how thick you make them. They should be competing dry. I always write the year on one side and put ribbon through the hole then hang them in the tree and they smell so good!

Start a few new traditions with the kids. I used to snoop at the checking account almost 3/4x a day when we had a joint account to see where he was and what he was doing. It was a pma blessing when we separated accounts and I couldn't do that anymore because I wasn't strong enough on my own to stop it. Possibly think about forcing yourself to stop the snooping.