It might be interesting to find some other arrangements for the non-swimming child (a babysitter, playdate, etc). Probably just an hour or two, right? It would show her that you are A-OK without her.
I agree here for the future. Is there a pool with a crèche? The gym I belong to has one. H and I took 3 grandchildren and the youngest went to the crèche as her swim was short and in the baby pool. I guess the children are in different lessons.
This is a broken promise to her children if she is not on time. The answer is not to go swimming just once and then tell W that her behaviour is unacceptable and you will make other arrangements for swimming if it happens again. Be prepared to act. Ignore the lying part as you will in my opinion weaken your stance, and appears point scoring just failing to show and disappoint is enough.
So:
"I feel that swimming and maintaining the children's schedule is very important, today that broken schedule happened because it takes two of us to take the children swimming and our children enjoy their swim. if this happens again then I will be making alternative arrangements for swimming"
Be grateful if my script could be amended, as I am not the best at this.
Let us know how it goes.
Vanilla
Last edited by Vanilla; 12/14/1411:00 AM.
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