Yeah, SIL is a great gal. She's had a tough life, single mom, dead-beat baby's dad, stressful job, etc. She's always looked up to W, so this is especially tough. I heard that SIL Said when this all started that she can't help W, because she can't commiserate that W had anything bad in her life compared to most people. Also heard she said she would kill for someone like me in her life and doesn't understand why W is doing this. It was a good boost for me earlier on in the crisis.
Yeah, I'm struggling with W upholding the boundaries. We tried verbal and that didn't work, now it's written but not legal, hopefully it doesn't go further cause it gets really expensive. It's just W says whatever to get me and/or counselor to be appeased and does whatever she wants anyway. Just trying to let that stuff roll off my back as long as it doesn't affect kids, finances or property.
Thanks again for the pep talk. It really wasn't too big of a deal going through it with her, but it stinks that we're at this point. I guess I'm really worried that W will stick to her decision even though she knows it's not going to make her happy. She's a very determined person, one thing that attracted me to her; but a lot of times is so determined she causes herself to self-destruct. I guess I need to leave that up to faith.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
