Angry WAH blames me for everything.......

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Am I the only one that sees this as a positive? The fact that he wants you guys to ask your IC's how to fix your communication problems, to me, sounds like a good step. And if you guys go to counseling together isn't that a good thing? I know you said your H doesn't want to work on the M but going to counseling to fix your problem, even if it's just communication, seems very positive to me? The fact that he is even addressing it sounds like he wants to work on it.

RE: your H wants to have conversations and go from there

obviously I'm no vet but my W said the same thing a while back. That she just wants to be able to talk to each other again and just see what happens. To me all this means is they want to establish some sort of communication to where your friends again and not at each other's throats or just angry all the time. They just want to see if you can even talk to each other again because if not then obviously there's no marriage to be saved...

These are just my thoughts, my W said the same thing and now we are very friendly when we talk to each other. I know that a lot of vets say it is not about what makes your H/W nice to you but what he/she does to make the M work, but IMHO if your WAS is not nice to you and isn't talking to you on a friendly level, how can you save the marriage?

Any vets out there that care to shed some light on this in case I'm way off base, please share