I just read this thread and just want to also offer my support to you both. Heartbreaking.
LJGH2, by the way, as a recovering alcoholic myself and someone who attends both AA and Al-anon, I have to agree 100% with everything 25 said. (That woman's something else, huh?) Your H sounds totally lost in his alcoholism. Keep the kids safe and at some point it may help to differentiate dad from his disease. Al-anon could be a good GAL item. You will probably meet many people who can relate to your struggles.
Me: 39 W: 46 D: 7.5 S: 5 SD: 16 SS: 12 T: 2 (06/2012) M: 2 (12/2012) Separation 09/2014. No talks of D yet. No communication since 10/3/2014