Sorry you are having some tough times. I know how these feelings come and go. I’ve been at this for 2 ½ years. Not saying that it doesn’t get better. It does.
I came to a realization that H started his MLC a couple of years prior to DB too. There were all kinds of signs, I just didn’t know any better except to associate his behavior with the problems with his job and his father’s illness and death. Now I can see this more clearly.
Originally Posted By: 123Gwen
The way he is so detached from our children tells me that this is not about our M. It is sad.
This just made me realize that my H has been doing the same thing. He is not in contact with my son. Even though my son is not his biological child, but H raised him from when he was 8 years old. We were family. He told me that he loved my son. I constantly question whether H is in MLC or our M was so bad that he could not stand it any more. But, what about my son? BTW, my son didn’t reject H after what he did to me. He is open to communication. I’m sure he is hurt inside. After all, it is second time in his life when he was abandoned by a father figure. Good thing that the second time happened when he was already an adult. I’m sure he can handle things a lot better.
I’m not a water person either. It would be a miracle if I ever get on the surf board .
Hang in there, Gwen. Have a great weekend.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
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