I don't see LRT as being dark. Going dark is a different road. The 37 rules are ideas for doing a LRT.

Any interaction is up to him. You do not initiate interaction with him, except maybe speaking hello or goodbye. Center your life around you and son, but not him. You should not appear angry or sullen. Instead, you are very happy and busy in making a life that does not necessarily include him. It is up to him to decide to change that setting.

Don"t act like a pitiful, rejected, left behind W who is pleading for him to want her. Heck no, if he doesn't want you in his life, then you won't waste your valuable time on him. Life is too short, and you do not have to settle for crumbs or leftovers. Showing spunk and confidence is admired by men. Acting pitiful, lonely, crying, whining, moody, angry, pursuing, etc., has the opposite affect on men. Trying to make him feel sorry for you or guilting him will not work.

You don't have to leave the room every time he enters it, but neither should you act as if you are starving for a few minutes of his attention. You can survive without it. Make sense?

When or if he comes in the house, he should see you enjoying whatever you are doing at the time. Cook dinner for you and son and eat without him, instead of waiting and hoping he will come home. Go about life as if he were completely out of the picture.

When he does interact, respond as if he were a nosy neighbor. You know how you would deal with a nosy neighbor, right? Nice but not givng much information out, and not spending a long time with him. Speak, wave, and keep moving.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!