Busting this Divorce - Moving Out

[HPoirot]

Thank you all again for your wonderful support today. I'm feeling great PMA. Maybe a little too much though...

I got boxes and made it home to get s11 for bball practice. When i came in the house i cheerfully asked S11 if he was ready to go. Then dropped of the boxes at the door. W watched me do this. I did not say a wird to her. I then didn't stay in the house.. Waited for s11 outside. She came to me looking miserable again. I felt great the looked it.

She said "first... Good morning". I did not say good morning to her earlier. I'm the rude one now.

Next she said her stepfather was being moved to a hospice as his cancer was getting worse. She said he was dying and she was trying to find a cheap plane ticket to go be with her mom. She said she realized it was over Christmas.

I think I said ok.

It was only until later that I realized I was so focused on myself and my PMA that none of what she said had registered with me. I did not tell her sorry about her news. Did not show any empathy at all. I was definitely acting like someone not waning to be married at all. I was very wrong here.

She then started talking about when I planned on getting to movers. I said January 2. This would not give here the extra time in the house she asked for.

She said she was planning to take s11 to the seaside resort for a night with her girlfriend and her son s11s friend. I smiled and said no problem send me your dates.

All through the conversation she was giving me a sad "why are you treating me this way " look while I'm smiling at her. I can see how she could feel that way. I did not consider her feelings or what she was saying as I am in full "I'm so happy to be getting away from you right now" mode.

The truth is I don't want to be attentive to her needs right now. I'm in a great mood looking forward. I'm not upset that's she looks miserable after her show of supermom this morning. So this me being passive aggressive again? How can I have high unstoppable moving on PMA and be nice to my W as she is being these days?

One of the things chuck told me to be careful of was me appearing to slam the door on R. That she would give up hope for us if I make her feel she has no chance with me. She clearly getting the message she has no control on me now and I'm sure I'm looking at her like she's less than dirt when I smile at her misery.

I do want an R with her. I do believe we can have the M we both want. I can be the bigger person and act right even while she gives me nothing.

So I'll ask her about her stepdad later. I'll sit and listen and vailidate if she speaks to me. Can have her feeling like the rejected one here, right?