When I read your posts for some reason I think of Busto. I've had this saved in my favorites forever. I'm not sure (it's been a long time since I've read it) but I think it must relate to your story in some ways. His ability to detach, even when he didn't want to, is instructive.
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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss