I am sure some of the vets could offer much better advice than I, but IMHO, you seem to have some very valid reasons for moving ahead with D. You have to do what is best for Jim and for the kids. Like you, I struggle for closure and while my H chose to file for D and I didn't stand in his way, a part of me is actually looking forward to it being final so I can finally say "it's over" and then let the real work begin.
Hang in there, Jim. I see your posts to others and you are always full of good advice and you seem to be on the right track in your own sitch. Sending positive thoughts and prayers for you and your children.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
