It feels like a sensible option to push ahead with the divorce. I should say I still want to reconcile but I'm not seeing how being divorced will make that harder than it is now.
The biggest reason not to is that she might see it as me having a strop and resent me for 'blaming' her. But in the scheme of things that isn't the biggest thing she would have to get over.
Reasons for pushing ahead. - its what she says she wants - it resolves the financials - the legal paperwork won't say it was all me - it calls it what it is - adultery - It shows that im not just going to hang around and let her do whatever she wants - it is standing up for myself more than I have been - maybe she will feel some loss - it worries her that I'm going to do this as it upsets her plan - it might give me some closure
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
