Jim0987 #6 - starting a bit of a rebuild

[jim0987]

So I find myself increasingly thinking I should file for D. I'm not a plan B I'm better than that and I don't like the idea of hanging around while she explores different relationships. Especially as she has been hung up on OM1 for so long.

And forgive the self pity but given the way we can't enjoy life like that (because of kids) and how crappy a husband I've been I really don't see her ever changing her mind about us, especially with what she would have to face in herself.

The main advantage to me filing is that it means the legal paperwork will always say that she ended the marriage by adultery, the alternatives are to contest divorce (very expensive and pointless) or to agree that she had to leave because of my unreasonable behaviour (she's put everything in place for this)

I know the books say do nothing but that I think leaves me exposed.

Your thoughts and advice are much appreciated