hahaha! Yes pilot that was my secret veiled message to you. Come by my cubicle later to talk...
I wrote another post a few days ago but it seems to not have posted.
Thanks Little and Ganb8te, I've decided of course not to respond.
But it has made me think about when/if he does contact me again. I want to tell him something like "I hate you. You are an immature, cheating, lying little sh!t and I don't want to be friends or part of your harem!" But...
If my goal is to reunite with him that is probably not the best tactic. I suppose I need to work on my polite, friendly, mysterious persona. Looking at success stories on here there are mainly two camps, no? 1. set boundaries, detach and GAL, see if they wake up and come back or 2. be friendly and wait out their crisis until they see you are the better option.
Hey friends, maybe you will get a kick out of the latest in my sitch.
Got a few text messages from the WAH yesterday. He asks how I am and I say that I am doing fantastic. He asks if everything is ok, and I say yes everything is great! And he says that we haven't talked in a few weeks and he was wondering why and that he sent me several messages and I didn't respond blah blah. It all sounded very pathetic and whiny. I found it hilarious.
I just replied that everything was great and I've just been busy with work and other stuff. Tried to keep it lighthearted. Then I said "Gotta go, I'm running out to dinner!" He replied glumly "ok".
I'd love to say this is a turnaround in my story but that would be too optimistic. What I will say is that for a moment I feel on top, and I like the feeling.
My H definitely wants to keep me close, whether out of friendship or as plan B. If I knew it was only out of friendship I might even be ok with that. If I truly thought he was honorably loving me as a friend and wanting me in his life maybe I could accept that our romantic relationship is over and decide what to do next regarding a friendship. But I have a sneaking feeling that I am plan B. And that I do not accept.
I feel good to have removed myself, at least temporarily, from his game. Now he is on his own with his slew of OWs. Oh and by the way, he is currently on vacation visiting one of them out of state. I assume it didn't go as he planned in light of the fact that he is being clingy with me while he is away...
Ah my DB friends, the coaster ride continues! Hope everyone is having a great weekend!
High five! Glad he's starting to pull forward, by all appearances! Stewing on his part is good!
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
LisaB...you need to change your name to LisaA. Just sayin
Glad to hear you have a great PMA right now. Your H seems to still want you close...however I agree that it most likely is not a 180 on his part. I have always maintained if a guy has many girlfriends is because there is not a single one worth having. Quantity over quality.
Keep at it
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
Hi friends, sorry for the radio silence! Did someone say they want to meet up? YES! I want to go to Australia!!!
Not much to report around here. I have been avoiding WAH. He sent me a few chatty messages this week hinting that he wanted to meet. I was polite but cold/cool. Then he directly asked to meet for lunch next week.
Funny I feel so ... detached. And also angry, disgusted and tired. When I think of him I cannot remember very many things I like about him. Really nothing. I can only remember the annoying and irritating things and feel angry about how he has behaved. Otherwise not really any loving or positive feelings.
Basically we haven't talked in almost a month. I don't miss him.
I don't know what he is feeling or thinking or why he is asking to meet and wanting to chat. Perhaps he realizes his mistake. Perhaps he really wants to be friends.
I don't get this friend thing. He loves me so much as a friend that he will act pathetic and beg me to spend time with him...? Is it possible for him to need me so much in his life and yet still say ILYBNILWY? Is it just a crazy OW crisis thing where his brain function is hampered by his lust chemicals? Do I even care?
I feel I have been rude and avoiding him for a while and so now I have to see him because he has asked repeatedly. I imagine the conversation and I feel irritated. I don't want to know what he has been doing for the last few weeks. Last time I discovered what he was up to it was literally a different girl each night.
I have been slowly reading through a few success stories and the patience these people show is incredible. I do not have this patience.
Is it possible that he truly wants to be good friends? I just cannot imagine it.
Oh DBers, I just don't know. Not feeling so patient anymore.
Hugs, Lisa the grade A#1 choice
Me: 34 H: 30 M: 4 years BD: 6/15/14 He moved out 6/30/14 OW1: EA then PA after BD Now he's dating multiple OWs I'm over it and moving on.
