When you are focusing on you W you are wasting energy and pushing her away.
I understand the pull to know what she is doing, who with and all of that. I do understand. That said everything you do to know, find out, will not only waste your energy, but it will hurt you deeply. It will alter your ability to move forward and fu@k with you.
There is nothing you can do about it that would not make it worse. Find a way to change your focus, it will consume you. If you told your W about her friend it would fall not on deaf ears, yet the only thing she would hear would be you are monitoring her. ------------------------------------------------------------- What do you want to change about you? Why?
JP, I agree fully.. TBH, after the info drop, I have noticed how strong my detachment is getting.. At this point I really don't care.. Seriously.. I am sitting back just going to let this little production play out.. I have set the boundaries that I feel I can in my situation, and it is up to her to keep her end.. The future will only tell if she does..
I did a bit of background on this person as it was almost like shooting fish in a barrel to find out.. Sometimes it is a curse to know the type of people I do..
[quote=Rzrback
What I haven't read in your post is what are you doing to protect your children? If my W was dating a meth user with multiple restraining orders, I would be more than a little concerned about my kids' safety.
More than one person has gotten hooked on meth as a result of dating a user.[/quote]
Rzrback, until the time I find out for myself that this is 100% true, I am outwardly not going to take any action as I will look like a fool if untrue.. I know W well enough to know that she will not stand for any using..
Me:35 W:31 S6 + S9 T: 10 years M: 7 years BD: 7/2014 S: 8/2014 W has new BF: 12/2014 Still fighting the good fight!!..
