Forgive me if I am incorrect, but the impression I get from the way you tell your story is that when she brings up reconciliation, you are inclined to remind her of your terms that she is welcome back as long as there is no OM.
If you have told her this, she knows. You don't need to keep repeating it.
Unless she is asking you directly, you don't need to keep repeating it, and even if she DID ask you directly, you don't have to answer candidly. I'm not saying to lie to her, but a little wink and a "I guess we'll cross that bridge when we come to it" may not hurt.
But you asked sandi, so we'll both wait and see what she says.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
