Thanks for your best wishes Tim and Pam. It depresses me, Tim, that we are so similar - and hairdog, CeMar, Dave36, luvhubby and honeypot - because it's starting to look as if it's something to do with our personality type that turns our partners on initially then turns them off with time. Let's face it, they are are never going to DESIRE us are they?
SD Diary
Saturday morning. Another sleepless night but at least I've thought things through a bit more. This morning she sort of apologised in her own inimitable "I'm sorry it went wrong but is was all your fault" way. OK I accept she was tired but "I'm too tired" is not my problem. My problem is the follow up "You're putting too much pressure on me". It has bothered me for some time that she has no love languages but I believe that she has them but they work in reverse. I express myself best with words and touch but my declarations of love to her and my cuddles and kisses are read by her as "pressure". I am also good at acts of service but I'm sure she regards them as me building up credit so that my "pressure" will be accepted at some time in the future. This morning she tried to get an apology conversation going but as I said, "sorry" doesn't come naturally to her and she always has to "win" an apology. Instead of being drawn into a lengthy argument I just told her that "You're the one with the problem so you'd better sort it out" and left it at that. She has just gone shopping and before she left she tried to get me to smile (which I did) so I suppose that's a start. My strategy this week is to only do acts of service that I routinely do and not try to do any of hers (eg cooking and ironing). I will not give her any signs of love (pressure) at all but I will accept any she gives me with a response that will not be over enthusiastic. It's life, Jim, but not as we know it. SD
