Busting this Divorce - Moving Out

[HPoirot]

Thanks Starsky and BigMac. Yes I am very much looking forward to separating from my W now. It is really the best thing that can happen in this sitch b/c I am truly done with her drama. I will not miss the person she is being now. I will work to stay calm and not be passive aggressive or any way aggressive on our way out.

And yes Starsky... I agree that 60-90 days would be ideal. I LOVE that idea. Not so much for her to feel loss... but for me to really really detach, get stronger, and enjoy my life. I want to respond nicely to nice contact she may make. Otherwise I will not initiate contact. I will not go to events together with her if possible. S11 has basketball games now. She may ask for rides to go. (She incredibly asked for a ride to her party today after all that has happened.) I'd like to warmly tell her no for my piece of mind. Thoughts on that?

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We had a great GAL with s11's granddad. No panic attacks or sadness from S11. Chinese food and a movie. The movie, Maleficent, talked about lies and betrayal between lovers. S11 picked up on that and said... "Are these the kind of lies happening to our family?" Nice. I'm glad he says these things to me. I explained that yes sometimes people you love can treat you badly but you can still forgive. Now to only show him how.

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We start moving into the condo tomorrow. All we need to bring are clothes. I am very very grateful.

S11 asked what his mom is going to do. I said, "That's up to your mom." I really don't know what she's going to do.

She's at her office holiday party right now. Had a drink already before she left. We'll get to sleep before she comes home. That's the best way.

One day to go.