Busting this Divorce - Moving Out

[HPoirot]

Hello Wonka. What I really wanted to know from Chuck regarded my approach to W now that I'm moving out and away from her. As I am very excited about my new life... I see myself initiating little to no communication with W. I am concerned I may like my life so much that I actively push chances to get better with her away.

So I asked Chuck about how to get back to being nice with her after all that has happened. That will be hard for me as he suggested apologizing for my anger, Christmas together and even the couples counseling. I like better the idea that I create enough space for her to start moving towards me. I'm fine with that taking months. Whether or not she sees my changes as she had before is not my priority now. Just making my changes, GALing, and taking care of S11 are my priorities.

That was the only thing... how to perhaps re-connect with W while I live without her. Honestly, I would love to have zero communication with her for at least 30 days. Then, if she tries to contact me start in on some light talking over coffee. If she doesn't contact me then that's great too.

She can always call S11 on his phone to check up on him. She may not have an apartment soon so she may not be asking to have him over much in January. We'll see.

Any thoughts on his suggestions?

Off to GAL at the condo.

Funny, she asked me for a ride to her holiday party. She then decided to take a cab or bus as I wasn't leaving when she wanted.

On the way out, she tells S11 that, on our way back from the condo, we can stop by her office if he wants to come up to the party. He can just call her to let her know. Tells him to "tell daddy that" although she is talking plenty loud enough for me to clearly hear her. She knows he won't want to go to her party... just again using S11 to be transparent about where she is going to be. Why is she still bothering? Maybe her IC has her doing this but why would it matter to her what I think about where she goes? I acknowledge with "OK" but do not ask for or anything about her transparency speeches. It would be great if she was transparent like I detailed to her... but if that ever comes I know it won't be for many many months.

OK ... now I'm of to GAL.

Take care everyone.