Sorry I've been MIA for a while as I just 'kissed' a proposal packet and hit the send button.
It will take a while for WAW to come to certain conclusions about her worldview and realize that 'yeah, those thought patterns aren't working for me any more'. It all boils down to this: do I want to be right or do I want to be happy?
As Starsky stated in previous posts, it will take many fits and starts for W to get the XOM out of her system. Right now, her windshield is foggy and she can barely see out of it. That haze is called resentments and XOM drug withdrawal. A bunch of crap for her to sort out and make sense out of them.
All of this is not a linear process. Probably will be filled with zigs and zags.
You are doing really good with being patient with this process while standing in your own truth.
Thanks Wonka, great to hear from you again
I expected this once she cut off OM. I knew she would go to a dark place for a while. She knew it too, and I'm actually proud of her for making the decision to say goodbye anyway. This was not in response to any demand or request I made.
Of course, right now she thinks that she will feel the way she does forever. That's natural. I knew this would be one of the harder steps. One day at a time.
This is not a time for me to make her feel abandoned. I'm just walking the line of being present and strong for her without lapsing into "fix-it" or "therapist" mode.
You gotta go to the s*** to get to the good stuff, whatever that good stuff is.
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Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
