I get you NAJ, we all do. We have all been there and some of us still are there. Use GAL, do stuff for you, do what makes you happy, go out, mingle, get a pilot licence if that floats your boat, go do stuff you always dreamed of doing, but did not have the time ot the guts to do it. As one of the firs posts you got said, you have been given the gift of time, use it wisely.
Be the greatest dad in the world. Do stuff with your kids, for your kids, go roll in the snow with them, take them to the zoo, take them to the pool, go to martial arts class with them, coach their little league team. Don't go about the world in a victim mode. Sure it [censored] what happened to you, sure it is not fair, but NAJ life does not give a rat's ass weather it is fair or not. Make the best of it. If life gives you lemons, make a MF lemonade, just don't sit in a corner and wallow in your sorrow. UHU, poor me, look at me, my W left me, I'm a poor lost baby, come and feel sorry for me.
PMA dude, PMA!!! Positive mental attitude, stare the world in the face with a smile and say HELL NO, I WILL NOT BE BEATEN DOWN. Make that skank of your wife regret the day she left you, the best husband and dad the world has ever seen. How do you do that? Become the best husband&dad the world has ever seen.
In time it will get better, detach from your W and the less contact with her, the better.
And dude, your BD was September, you are doing great! You are only 3 months in. Every month from now on will be better. You will still have crappy days, but there will be less and less of them and the crappy periods will become shorter and shorter.
