Get PROFESSIONAL advice. People trained in these areas.
When you need a good attorney, do you want one that specializes in your problem or do you want to take advice from an amateur?
Same thing here....
Many of us here are trying to help.. You need to remember that we are mere amateurs.. Amateurs tend to only be able to give you advice from what THEY may be working on at the time or advice that is only as mature as they are in learning about relationships...
It's like getting a golf tip from a friend.. It may or it may not help.. Usually they give you a tip on something they have just discovered THEY are working on or need to work on... You could actually be worse off if you listen to them..
Then you go to a Golf Pro who is trained in the golf swing and they KNOW what to look for and what really is needed for you to work on...... They KNOW what to look for and the best path to follow to solve the problem...
Same thing here..... If you can possible afford it, then get PROFESSIONAL help. Don't take this lightly...
