I feel like I'm auditioning to be part of my marriage too. I don't feel experienced enough to give a lot of advice, but I'll just say something I read in DR that's helped me a ton when I'm wondering if it's OK to say this or that or talk about something. MWD said something along the lines in DR like "No one ever got in trouble for something they didn't say." For my own marriage, my husband felt controlled but I also know my words had a big impact on him—criticism, things yelled during fighting, etc—so I'm ver careful with my words these days!
Not sure if I helped or hijacked your thread. It's good your H is opening up to you though!
Me: 38 H: 43 Kids: 2,4 T10 M6 BD: 1/14 11/14: H moves out
