I think that you are referring to my comments below - I could have been more clear in my post. I don't want to seem disparaging at all.
No, my basis for that comment was from reading your sitch all along. It seems that you were very satisfied in your life before the BD and it baffles you that W wasn't. That's a red flag right there that you were so disconnected from each other that you couldn't see her unhappiness and she couldn't share it with you.
It's difficult because you see no need to change anything, she clearly wishes something was different but seems to have not shared that with you and now just wants out.
I know you're in pain about this but you can't fix her and this is about her and her unhappiness.
Refresh my memory, have you had a talk with her about any of this? Would you? And if so what would you say?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
