I've dropped the rope....

[okjpc]

Thanks, Toots, for your honesty. I think it's a d**k move to not acknowledge the anniversary and bday. My anniversary is next week (on Dec. 21). I'm fully expecting my W not to acknowledge, but my DB coach and IC both think I should (and i want to) with a card, but keep the message brief. My IC says I don't have much to gain by sending an anniversary card, but she may well hold it against me if I don't.

I've checked in on these threads and seen posts from people on days they're feeling strong/detached/etc. and on days when the pain is really acute. It's very comforting to see both. It makes all these feelings seem so human and understandable. And i think for you and me both, the pain is part of a process that is moving in the right direction. I'll be sending you my best thoughts today.