I finally got through this whole thread. I had read bits here and there, but to read through an entire thread this long is daunting, to say the least. Glad I did, however.
I second wwb's BUY A LOCK!!! comment. You really must lock that door, at least when ML. My bedroom door is ONLY ever locked when ML, it is totally open, not even closed at all other times. That means it's always open...
I had FORGOTTEN the "just do it" philosophy (because it was such an utter failure in my case), so now I understand why you're placing such hope on "habit forming" Friday nights. I was truly sorry to read about your D16 - glad she's recovering. That would be a terrible scare!
I'll keep up with your thread from now on, and I hope to see you making more progress, but I think you may need to let things coast on a plateau for a while, till your W gets acclimated to the new surroundings (i.e. Friday nights). Her aversion to "psychobabble" worries me. Sounds like my W, where deeply-held beliefs and attitudes can be a real issue. Again, I hope I'm wrong...
