W has been really happy the last 24hrs or so. friendly and chatty, started telling me stuff about her day at work, sharing information and then seem surprised by the fact i didnt know about an anecdote from her night out on tuesday.
we had a nice chat this morning as my W noticed the wine in the fridge and asked about it. Drinking wine is a new thing for me as i never really liked it but felt that sometimes i missed out on the social aspect (in a 1:1 situation)
I would love to think its because she is softening to me but i suspect something that starsky said on Rzr's thread is probably more likely (GOOD = BAD). Something else is making her happier and this is just carrying accross to her interactions in general.
Having said that when she was talking about work i think i did a good job of validating her feelings (her boss was being unfair) I also said some genuine complimentary things about her ability at work
this morning we talked about a bunch of stuff including christmas presents for the kids (the emphasis was very much on our seperate christmasses and we both acted fine with that), my plans for the weekend. I was fully open about the stuff involving the kids and mysterious about the stuff that doesnt.
On reflection i made a few comments/questions within the conversation that i shouldnt have done including - Referencing something she told me previously which we both know is a lie but i acted as if it were true - a question about tuesday night which highlighted the holes in what she told me - a comment that eluded to me missing doing stuff as a family - a comment about how she must be tired because she has been out a lot later than she usual - a comment about how i would love to start our D3 on horse riding lessons but its not something we will be able to afford anymore
So a lot of bits in there which although i was happy and friendly throughout she could have taken badly and shows that i'm not doing great on cutting this kind of stuff out no matter how its delivered.
i should say this is analysis to recognise and try and change rather than beat myself up (at least thats how it feels)
I suppose the big downside is that a positive interaction with my W has put me in a much better mood which shows im nowhere near detached enough - as if further proof was needed.
GAL scorecard update Wednesday - Played with kids all day (2pts) Thursday - Work (1pt), Phoned mum (0pts*), Played squash with good friend (3pts)
GAL plans for weekend Friday - Work (1pt) Saturday - Taking kids to big family do (3pts) Sunday - Swimming with kids (2pts), Cooking sunday roast with D3 (1pt), Decorating christmas cake with Kids (3pts)
* phoned my mum which was good, conversation did not go well so 0pts
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
