The Goddess of the Goats Sees Into The Future

[GoatGal]

All that said---I am going away from Dec 20 until after Jan 1.

I am thinking of telling H that I want to have no contact during that time.

Why?

Well, first of all because he has stated that I can just "move out" and he will happily continue without me.

FACT: He cannot work his job with the hours and commute and take care of these animals and the house. Last year he had to hire a pet-sitter and still the animals were neglected and he was overwhelmed. And he only worked half days the entire time.

This time around he has decided to work half days to accommodate my visiting with my mother, etc. The reality is HE CAN'T SUSTAIN THIS PLACE WITHOUT ME. At least without neglecting the basic needs of the animals in our care.

Part of me is thinking to give him a taste of what he wants--kind of like last year--but we were in touch an awful lot that time, and I didn't even know he'd filed for divorce the day I left. (Psychic me. I felt sick and had to leave immediately.)

I'd like him to be here without me through Christmas, feel the pangs of being alone; something he has NOT had to experience while living with co-dependent co-worker landlady. He hasn't been alone YET. And I know he hates it.

I want to not speak to him unless it's an emergency. I just want a break.

I'll be visiting in the areas where I would move to if we D. I just want him out of the equation while I'm thinking.

But yeah---a big part of that is lighting a fire under his butt--let him see what life without me would REALLY be like.

Then again, inconvenience isn't a really a selling point for him wanting to be in a R with me.

And--there's that pesky ego again!

I am NOT waiting around for him to decide I'm a good fallback option.

What say you?

I could use a few weeks of being TOTALLY DARK. He's a touch-and-go type.
Maybe it's time to cut that off?


---(G)GGG
PS: Not a peep from him all day. That might be a first since he goes to sleep about now. Nice to note that I don't have any feeling about it one way or the other.