You know, GG, I got to this point. I loved my h so much that I wanted him to find his way. For him.
I knew that the ultimate act of love was to let him go. As I said, I loved him, but, I also learned to love me enough to want to follow my journey, too.
I knew that the way for me to let him go I had to get to a place of forgiveness. To me, forgiveness is a way to honor your relationship. It is an acceptance of what is and the letting go of expecting something different.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act.
Once I got there, and it was a tough road, I was able to detach. For me detaching meant that I would not allow his actions or words to affect mine. It meant that I could still have compassion for him and his crisis and continue to live my life.
Ultimately, I wanted what was best for him even if that didnt include me.
