Knowing "what" to do, and "how" to go about it are two very different things.
Not to mention, even knowing "how" doesn't necessarily make it any easier!
--(G)GGG
Who is working on Christmas plans solo--because for the last several years H was "Super Scrooge" and there were no gifts, no special times, "New Year's Eve was for amateurs", it's just "another birthday", "just another anniversary"...everything became---nothing. Not worth noting, not worth celebrating. I went from someone with loads of Christmas Spirit to someone who no longer bothered to give gifts, send cards... Funny thing too. The last few years, the only cards I got were from my dentist, Eye doctor, the Real Estate Agent we'd bought our house from... the veterinarian who financed a wing from our payments over the years.
And THIS YEAR---I've gotten cards, gifts, invites for parties, meals... Hmmmm.... Not because they feel sorry for me (or are trying to get in my pants)... just because the efforts I've made at connecting with people this last year have paid off in that people feel I care for them, and so they feel connected to me.
Funny how that works...
So I have plans for the holidays. I am giving gifts, and surprising people, and going out of my way to make the people who made my life rich this year feel special and cared for. I'd forgotten how much I missed that.
