newbie needs help part 5

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I am not sure what to do with conversations with wife. We have had a few. Most recent last night. I was reading the book What a difference a daddy makes on my Nook. W walked in and asked what I was reading. Then asked what it was about. The book talks about the father daughter relationship and how it impacts the daughter with all her relationships, husband, kids,siblings, freinds. She asked so I described the jist of book. She got angry and said why don't I read about how to make a good divorce for kids. Anyway she spewed and got me upset, I let her drag me in ,I responded with she hasn't delt with her issues with her dad a banding her as a child and the effect it's had on her.
It's been anissue she hasn't delta with in the 19yrs we have been together. Anyway we calmed down and she told me I wasn't there for her when she was sick. Never was she sick with any disease, maybe flu bug, but I just validated and said if I could I would do a lot of things differently. We talked about the D process which end of month is a hearing on temporary housing during D process. I take kids to school in mornings, and pick up from school 50% of time
Her job doesn't allow her to get kids to school in am. My position is I don't want her to leave, but I am not going to live with her until June going through this, it's to hard on kids and me. I told her I didn't want her to leave but couldn't live as friends and as much as I would like to be her friend I wasn't sure I would be. That was about it. We talked for a few hours. She said she was worried that I would re marry a younger woman and have more kids. I said that is a possibility.