Jim0987 #6 - starting a bit of a rebuild

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Jim

I have what I call my 'loop'. I can emphasise the same point over and over ad nausem because I haven't picked up the signs that the other person has acknowledged my point. It comes across as very aggressive sometimes and can be annoying for the other party.

My IC taught me this method which is the 2nd , 3rd, 4th position mode

It requires getting out of your own head, and imagine sitting in the others shoes (2nd position) but then being the fly on the wall watching the interaction (3rd position),then being the spider watching the fly on the wall watching the interaction (4th position).
I can do this now I have practiced and it has really helped me get out of my own head. Otherwise I go inwards into loop mode and can't get out.

The GAL has really helped.

Ironically the book I found most helpful of late is the Gift of Learning by Ron Davis which is more about techniques than blabbing on about the syndromes and overanalysing. Quite a bit of try this or that or the other. Essentially aimed at dyslexia syndrome (which I don't have) and aimed for young adults. I don't know where asps fits in the pattern syndrome of ASD but ADD is a bridge from ASD to ADHD. 1 in 50 of us has ASD or ADD. I happen to have hyperfocus which is on the tail of ASD, and requires a higher IQ. I am not ASD or ADHD but I truly believe there are benefits to this spectrum disorder.
Recognition and diagnosis is the key. Those with the disorder that I have are always highly creative and generally love puzzles and challenges. They learn easily and the left and right brain are firmly linked. They did think it was cross neural linkage which triggered this, but the primitive part of the mind plays a link with triggering spin. Michelangelo is my hero.

I still lose my keys, phone, purse and wallet every day though. And I generally donated my belongings to lost property offices. Ever wonder where the odd things found on the tube come from? Wonder no more, they are from my handbag, if only I knew where I had left it, my handbag I mean! I forget where I left my car and I once reported it stolen, it was recovered 6 months later where I had left it parked! Talk about egg on face. I have had to go back to shopping mall car parks just before they close when my car is the only one left standing. Of course I now have tricks that I use such as a ribbon I tie to the aerial in large car parks, so my car is recognised by me! I buy odd coloured cars as that helps too.

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