Busting this Divorce - Moving Out

[Little]

Hey, I'm not one that medicates at all, for anything, usually....but I can't discount that it's helped me signifigantly. Even if it's only temporary to get through the sitch, you don't have to stay medicated forever.

[Starsky309]

It helped me, too, from 2007 - 08.

[Vanilla]

Vanilla,

I also have ADD/ADHD, and I believe it is Maybell whose H also has it. And I think it is Lois/Betsy who has said she also has some of the traits.

It does make things a bit more challenging, doncha think?


--(G)GGG

Certainly does.
Van

[HPoirot]

Thank you everyone for your help today. I'll respond to specifics when I get a chance ASAP.

Looks like I'm to be tested on my cool right now...

I put my phone away to not keep checking in. Just saw text from W from half an hour ago. Exactly the time she would have picked up s11 from school.

She says... "Can you call me about s11 please?"

There is a good chance this means she got him from school and he was sad about what is happening. He has already told some of his friends that we are getting divorced. W had no problem with him doing that BTW.

So, here could be her chance to stop him coming on the move to the condo with me.

I'm thinking I should call as now we're friendly... and I know I must follow Starsky's advice to not turn this into a new drama.

But she will give me drama all the same. I do not want to fight her on this. Should I just let S11 stay with her if this then is the case? That means she'll keep the car too.

Thinking of texting her... "In a meeting. What is it?"

[Starsky309]

You pretty much read my mind, HP -- I was going to say texting back "Just saw this, and am tied up for a little while longer. What's up with S11?"

[HPoirot]

Thanks Starsky. Sent... "JUst saw this. Am tied up right now. WHat's up with s11?"

Response... "We have a tree. Do you want to decorate with us or should I do it before you get back?"

So the one day I'm away from home...

I put some money in the joint to pay a bill. She took it out. I guess I now know why.

Well, I'll be back late close to 8pm. I really don't want to keep this up with her.

Thinking I'll just say "I'll be back late."

[Wonka]

HP,

Man...your W is something. Rope a dope! She's WICKED good in weasling that in so you look like a dope if you said no.

F*ck!

"I was concerned that it was an emergency concerning S11. You texted me over a tree. Really? You can go ahead and do what you want to do with S11."

[HPoirot]

You know I really don't want to keep this up. My eyes hurt now. I don't even know what to say. I really need to get away from her.

I'm sending.. "I thought you had an emergency with S11. You texted me over a tree. Really? You can go ahead and do what you want to do with S11."

Sounds testy though. Maybe she's being sincere and not trying to be hurtful?

I need to detach here but I'm not there.

[Wonka]

HP,

The best course of action is:

"Ok...you can go ahead and decorate with S11. I will be home very late tonight."

Then make yourself scarce tonight..even to the local pub to watch some sports. Let this be a bonding moment for S11 and W. I do think she's trying to rope you into playing "happy families" here.



Don't fall for it.

[HPoirot]

Sigh. OK... sending... "OK W... You can g ahead and decorate with s11. I'll probably be home late tonight."

I'm going to start acting as if my remaining days with this person will go without any incident.