Wife has left and filed for divorce

[HPoirot]

I wanted to circle back to explain why I think it is important for Vertex to respond to W's email.

1) It is courteous and respectful to acknowledge her heartfelt message
2) W's wall has come down a bit to reach out to Vertex
3) One needs to take this situation on context: mutual RO which has prevented them from communicating. Zero communication means zero connection.

Vertex, send out the simple response and then let it go. Don't try to reach out again or prolong it. You have been doing really well respecting W's space and her desire for no contact.

Keep your expectations at zero or at least low.

Thank you Wonka for this reply and vertex for posting your issue. I have been ignoring all communication from my W and I see how that can be a mistake. I note that most of her texts are just to get me to respond... but she does very rarely leave a VM or email where she admits her feelings. Even if the message is not what I care to hear... I should still respond with a "Thank you for sharing. Very thoughtful of you" message. I can still be courteous and respectful while I move away from her.