STFU is really hard for me - I've always been kind of an all or nothing person in that sense.
If I start talking stuff just comes out and it takes a lot of effort to control that. when I do get into arguements I can be silent for a long time because I cant order or even keep up with all the thoughts that are racing through my head or if i do say something its usually pretty unfiltered or not quite what i mean. You can probably see that a little from my posts.
Add to it that I don't recognise when i'm going to far (pushing a point that has been made) I can see how difficult that might be for someone who has lost trust in me.
I hadnt thought to look research what it is like for a partner of an aspergers person. I think I'll do that. GoatGal recommended a book which i've ordered so i will read that and see if that helps.
I've spoke to my GP on monday about my suspicion of aspergers and he has referred me to a specialist unit for an assessment. he expects this to be in the new year sometime but it might be a couple of months. so in the meantime its try and figure it out on my own.
Besides it might not be anything like that (i might just be looking for an excuse)
If its something your looking into then any advice is much appreciated. when are you going for testing?
You can thank vanilla for the points system, though it needs some finessing I think.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
