still holding on - 5

[u-turn]

Her anger is increasing daily. Last night she lashed out at me about me not caring about her and what she is doing. I tried to validate this, but also told her that I disagree about this. She was very angry and breaking some things.

She ended by telling me again that she is done. She said she wanted to figure how to do this - She moves out, I move out, we separate in the house - luckily the kids were not home to hear this.

She told me to write down what I want and we will go from there.

I told her that I have told her dozens of times what I wanted. She said that is not what she meant. (she meant for me to list my separation demands).

I told her that since I am not the one who wants to separate, I think she should write down what she wants as a starting point. She said fine.

She slept on the couch last night - first in a very long time, and she was still angry this morning.

I am letting this sit today. I did say goodbye to her when I left this morning, but she needs to make the next move.

I'm calm about this - just feel defeated.