My waking nightmare

[Lorelai]

Thanks Calibri. I like your new take on how to structure the email. It's very helpful because I hadn't thought of it that way and it's a totally different approach than I was planning to take.

I am a little mad right now. H was living with a friend then moved into his mom's where he has more room. She has a finished basement, a pullout couch an extra bathroom downstairs, etc. It's like his own little apartment. I feel more comfortable about him being at his mom's instead of at a friend's partly because his mom does not like us being separated so I'm hoping she can be a good influence. Unfortunately though, she's one of those people who also doesn't like to "rock the boat" so I don't think she's really telling him how she feels, just me.

On to why I'm mad. I have to get up super early with the kids, get S3 ready for school and off to the preschool bus, which I don't really mind, (except I'm not sleeping well lately). But I have early morning deadlines and need help with D1 while S3 is off at preschool. H makes up his own schedule and can basically be here anytime, but we don't have a set time for him to be here on his days and he usually shows up around the time S3 is getting off the bus, usually around 11. I'd like to be able to start working earlier, and it's difficult with a toddler, not totally undoable (please, no 2x4s from the moms with more than two little ones!) but challenging.

Being a not so great DB'r I made the mistake of calling my MIL and was seething when she said he hadn't gotten out of bed yet. I lost it and said "I wish I could sleep in until 8:30 every morning!" She said, "We'll I just got up too." I laughed and turned it into a joke and said something like "Look at you!" And she laughed too, so I think it's OK, but I did express how frustrated I was that I was doing all of these early morning routines while he sleeps in and how he doesn't call us in between visits to check on the kids. That hurts. But I need to tell HIM that. I just don't know how. He is very hard to talk to right now and communication is not one of our strong suits, especially since BD. Vets, I need some help, and probably a few 2x4s!