-- It's unfortunate that you're not ready to do that yet. I'm not sure coffee is best idea- not sure what we would all talk about. But it is time to break the ice somehow.
This weekend. Not sure of all your logistics and your parents', but maybe we could pick the girls up from Yonkers Saturday morning? That would be a great help with the long trek to Lowell.
--- What do you guys think?? I am so confused??
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
He wrote those words because it looks like you are not ready or willing to bring the girls over to the ow. He wants everyone to be one big happy bunch of friends and wants to shove the bs under the rug and move on. He thinks you are still angry and won't do things for him to accommodate his wants and desires.
Bottom line, it's not often that everyone can be one big happy bunch of people and if it happens, it's a long way down the road.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I think those words were just written quickly by a blockhead. There is no deep meaning. He just wants what he wants. Ignore his tone. It isn't personal.
As for meeting OW, I wouldn't try to push anything until you are completely detached. This is for self preservation.
What do you want to do about visitation?
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
I agree w/Gwen, ignore his comments. It's his way of sticking it to you because you aren't bending over backwards to accommodate him. Don't take it personally.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
