Friday 12 noon. Thank you all for your welcome advice and kind words. I really feel as if I am moving forward and can see things I could not before. I sent her a really loving (I think) email yesterday that she said she enjoyed receiving. She has not replied yet but I have decided to send her one every week. When we were courting I always made sure she received a letter every Wednesday so that is what I will do from now on. CeMar recommended I read the Five Languages of Love and I have now read the first half. It is interesting because despite all the times I tell W how much I love her and cuddle her etc. I don't somehow get the impression that she believes me. It could be that my love language is "Affirmation" and hers is something else, say "Quality time". Yesterday evening she asked me how my day had been and instead of saying "OK" I told her what had happened in some detail. When she was telling me about her day I concentrated on listening to her and maintaining eye contact instead of letting my eyes drift away after a few words. I realise that although we talk a lot we don't necessarily always communicate well. Later when we were alone watching TV, she switched it off and we had a really constructive talk about us. I suggested that we try to make Friday nights "our nights" and suggested that to ML once a week could not do us any harm. She agreed to try for a couple of months to see how we get on!!!! Tonight I will take her out to a local pub for a drink and a little more loving talk. I'm really looking forward to it because we have not been out on our own for such a long time. If you are reading this in the afternoon, due to time zones (mine is GMT), the chances are I will be out with her at this moment. Give us your encouraging thoughts and I'm sure we will be able to feel them coming in on the trade winds. If you are reading this in the evening then chances are we will be in bed – wish us luck! An excited SD
