Quote: I think she knows there is a problem but doesn't attach much importance to it. For example: As far as shopping is concerned I am ND. If she said to me that if I don't do the food shopping with her once a week our marriage is in trouble. I'll listen for a while, maybe go shopping once or twice then things will go back to how they were.
But, if she explained that she wanted you to join her shopping so that you could help pick out your favorite things and possibly try new things together, would that make any difference in your effort to shop with her? If she was able to make it clear to you that she feels very alone and taken for granted to always do the shopping herself and she can't help but feel jealous or saddened when she sees a couple shopping together... would it motivate you more? If shopping with her made her feel connected to you and *complete* would you give it a half a$$ effort? Somehow I doubt it.
Maybe you could find a photo of the two of you when you were younger and happier. Write her a heartfelt note explaining how you felt back then and how you long to feel that way again. Tell her you love her so much and it's *killing* you that she doesn't seem to realize how important her affection is to you. After all these years your love for her has only grown and you find her just as attractive(or more) as she was back then. Just a thought.
