I just finished a great book called "Radical Acceptance - Embracing you life with the heart of a Buddha."
I thought of you when I finished reading it. While it's very spiritual as it's coming from a Buddhist stance, I came away with a lot of knowledge and tools about letting pain go, forgiving others, and perhaps more importantly, forgiving ourselves. It talks about meditation, opening our hearts and taking a look at ourselves and others with new perspectives.
Glad to read in your thread to Toots that you got your tree up. :-)
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15