It does hurt me when she says she was hit on or her bragging about her boobs. I try not to show it but I just want to tell her to keep it to herself
Zed.... I feel for you. I really do... Sometimes women are hard to understand, I agree.
You want to know what I really think here?....
You need to have a good old fashion argument. Do a little yelling at her back... Stand up for yourself..... say a couple of things that show her anger...
You ARE disengaged. It seems to me that your wife has felt for a long time that you are disengaged.
Do you know that I have heard more than a few times that a woman who lives with a man who shows little emotion and seems disengaged, would rather have a big old argument now and then with him than to live with a disengaged man?
Do you know women have admitted to wanting to argue with their man JUST to have some engagement from him?
Do you know that Michelle says in DR that conflict is NECESSARY in loving relationships?.. ( page 51, DR)
Do you know some people were brought up in homes where yelling and raising their voices during conflict is a way of life, but they STILL love each other and know no different...
She WANTS engagement.. I would even go so far as to say she wants to see some passion from you. (ANGER)(in WORDS)
such as......
Zed: Wife, I want to say something to you about the other night when we were talking about the kid's Christmas presents....
(your voice rising).... It PIS**ES me off(don't say hurts me.. say PIS**ES ME OFF) that you ___________________ about those F***ING Boobs I bought..... .
AND another thing.... It also PIS**ES me off...
rant and rave for a few minutes.. get some things off your chest.. let her yell back........
SOMETIMES those things are NEEDED.. You seem like the type always in control.. She wants to feel your PASSION.....
That's my take.. Don't let her yell and call you names and then think she will love you if you smile and take it.. Women don't respect men like that. Stand up to her and show her you have some passion about this...
(of course you will say you are sorry later) .. (maybe the next day, but let her chew on THAT for a few hours)
.. (maybe the next day, but let her chew on THAT for a few hours)