I thought everything was okay...(Part 2)

[MCS]

So got an email from W about logistics of separation. Basically, she sent a list of the big items in the house, said she wants me to go through and add things she forgot, but will not come in the house to go through and create and inventory. Also, said any convo about it she wants a third party there.

So this is more of this 'unsafe' thing with me and not wanting to do anything without someone else. This is so out there for me. There is absolutely nothing to warrant her acting like this. I wonder if this is a ploy from L to try and make her justify abandoning the family. I don't know it's really weird. We can't even talk about the kids w/o counselor. All of our interactions have been fairly calm.

Mind reading.....This coupled with avoiding the house and everything else about her past life seems that she is just trying to move on and knows that she's emotionally vulnerable about her decision and is trying to do everything possible to move on. Almost like she's countering the DB by detaching herself.

Also, I got an Xmas card from FIL. Anyway, he wrote a note saying he was praying for me and hopes things work out somehow. It was really nice and made me cry. W was never real close to him and a lot of her issues I think were she never thought she could live up to his expectations, which is what she said about me also. Anyway, weird thing is since we have S, she has stayed w him twice when she was travelling up that way over the weekends. We never really spent time with him before, just Xmas eve. So, it's good to know that he feels that way and it is one person that W seems to have connected with at least informally after S.

So I really want to send a letter back thanking him for the card, but should I? And what should I say? I hope we can work it out too? Or just like Thank You?