Your H needs to see a C too or at the very least, needs to go to MC with you. No matter how great you believe your communication is, you need someone to give you a playbook to follow and follow through with.
How about a marriage retreat?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.