just got notification from W's atty. they didn't even get our wedding date right on the form. i called to tell them and he advised me that the judge signed the papers last fri (12/5).
i'm now divorced. she didn't even tell me. struggling to not hate and be bitter right now. pretty devastated right now.
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I wish I could love you and make you believe it 'Cause that's all you ever wanted From me
Me: 54 H: 58 Married: 29 years Together 33 years H admitted to A: 5/29/14 H moved out :6/15/14 OW lives 4 hours away and "occasionally" stays weekends with H D23 D18
She still hasn't told me. She's called a couple of times to talk to the kids. I have them hang up when they are done. Really don't want to see or talk to her right now. I both love her & hate her so much right now.
My S has started keeping a journal and I shouldn't have read it but I did. He keeps his feelings inside & I've been worried about him. His postings break my heart. He pleads w/God to heal his Mom & fix his family. For her to make the right choices & don't let Satan control her.
I keep getting washes of memories that break me down. Like past Disney trips, or just laying in bed holding each other. I wonder if she ever does or is dead inside to any positive emotion regarding me.
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Very tough and it must seem that it's hopeless. Please believe you will be happy again This is an incredibly tough time and you have no choice but to endure it Their is one person who can help you with this and it's you you have to deal with this situation Get all the support you can and move forward. Like everyone I want the pain to go away but it takes time. Move on now. There is always hope and this need not be the end of your R. Live your life. You are a young man and have a lot of living to do. Be good to yourself.
I am not a vet and very very far from it but the above is my humble opinion
Been trying to not have any interaction w/XW in the last couple of days. She called tonight so I could say goodnight to the kiddos. Its usually them on the phone first but not tonight. She said thatshe got a bill from daycare for $500. Apparently, she thought that I had been paying and how sweet that was (I di d from time to time) beacause they had not been emailing her. Tough s*it. Thats your problem and I'm not gonna get in the way of reality smacking you in the face! I just told her that that stinks and was sorry to hear that and asked to speak to my kids. I made sure to hang up so as not to talk to her again. She still hasn't mentioned that we are now divorced.
I did start the planning for the trip. We will be going dog sledding, ice skating, tubing, and wilk prolly ride in a horse drawn sleigh. Not to bad for a part time dad with two small kids in his own.
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I wish I could love you and make you believe it 'Cause that's all you ever wanted From me
