I won't give up III

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Though this is written for women, similar dynamic with men, especially with the male s3xual dynamic, imo...

Taken from a post at Womens AidorgUK:
Traumatic bonding occurs in abusive relationships because the abuser's behaviour keeps switching between nice and horrible (this Jekyll and Hyde behaviour is a characteristic of people with narcissistic disorder). So in order to get love from her partner, the woman also has to tolerate a huge amount of emotional pain, and she never knows what sort of mood he will be in because his behaviour is so unpredictable (psychologists call this intermittent reinforcement). Traumatic bonding itself is a highly addictive process consisting of 8 separate trauma components: Trauma arousal, trauma shame, trauma blocking, trauma splitting, trauma reaction, trauma pleasure, trauma abstinence and trauma repetition, each of which activates a specific neurochemical pathway in the brain which in turn floods the brain with highly addictive chemicals (which are as addictive as some Class A drugs). The different components of the trauma bond are activated at different stages in the cycle of abuse, for example, during the 'honeymoon period', trauma blocking and trauma pleasure come into play, while the tension building stage and explosion both activate the trauma reaction, trauma splitting and trauma arousal components. The other components such as trauma shame, trauma repetition and trauma abstinence tend to be present throughout the abuse cycle. So throughout the cycle of abuse, a variety of addictive chemicals are flooding through your brain. Repetitive cycles of abuse worsen the addiction and consequently strengthen the trauma bond. Trauma bonds are also strengthened by another process called the Karpman Triangle (named after psychiatrist Stephen Karpman, by whom it was first identified) in which the roles of the victim, persecutor and rescuer switch around due to certain commonalities between all three roles.