I won't give up III

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Continuing from my last post and a much shorter version of the lost in cyberspace Chapter 2


First a note of humor from the day of Twinkle Twat's (thank you job) move out of the house. I arrived at the house a few hours before her army of movers arrived. I closed off his bedroom and marked all items that were to stay in the house. T.T ignored them of course and had invited many of her friends to come and purchase items that she didn't want to move. I ignored her and she ignored me until she starting selling off items that belonged to my h. I had requested a mutual friend/attorney to be present during the move. I made sure he was a witness to the conversation. I told her that the items that she was selling didn't belong to her. She wouldn't look at me while telling me "shoo you silly woman". When I didn't obey her command, she said, "shoo you stupid woman". I calmly told her that she was an unwanted guest in the house and that she could be asked to leave at any point. The mutual friend said something to her that I couldn't hear. She immediately STFU! In her threatening email and texts to me she tried to get to me by calling me a pathetic girl and insinuated that I was a weak person. I'm a pick your battles person and not intimidated by her or anyone else. I was hoping that she'd step over the line again so I could call the Sheriff to come and get her!!!!


On to the more important issues.


After the ordeal my h started exhibiting unusual behaviors. He wasn't able to stay in his house for the first few days after T.T.'s was released from jail. He feared that she would come back to get her revenge.


While he was here for those 2 days I noticed that he was extremely anxious, restless and depressed . He told me that he felt bad about what he did to her (sending her to jail). He blamed himself for a lot of what happened. Yeah, he was to blame for allowing her into his life but not the cause of what she put him through. I asked him if he would like to read a book (Surviving the Female Narcissist) that might help him explain why he felt the way he did. Within a few hours he had an entirely different perspective. He said that everything he was reading fit her to a T. He continued to read and called often to read excerpts from the book to me. He said he recognized that he was suffering from PTSD, the same symptoms, fears, nightmares that he had after he left the military. An added benefit was that he recognized that he has some of the traits of narcissism and said that he had a few things to work on himself. Having a few of the traits is healthy and recognizing them is a good sign.


He struggles with the addiction that resulted from her brainwashing. The manner in which she drew him in (sex) and the feelings that he can't live without her haunt him. Apparently narcissist can condition their victims that they NEED the narcissist. He is facing a long recovery from this and that is where I'm struggling. As painful as it is to watch him I do know that I can't help him. I have that part down. He joined a support group and is in therapy and that is helping but it's a constant struggle just as any other type of addiction.


Twinkle Twat pops up every now and then with a text or email. She has the car that they leased and can't pay for because of her financial situation. It's their only tie to one another. He wants to buy her out of the car but she won't agree to that. I know that this is going to be her way back in. I want to do something to stop this before it's too late. What to do and how to go about it? Or do I just let it go and hope for the best?


Thoughts, advice, prayers and info from anyone that has dealt with a Narcissist are welcome.