Tearing up the message was a good thing, your second message was better. THINK TEAM EFFORT. You want to work with the wife, not tell her what she needs to do. So goal #1 is to find out if she is interested in making a Great Marriage. Do not discuss ANY issues. Do not have any agenda, and make sure that ALL issues are fair game for fixing. The objective is a GREAT MARRIAGE, nothing else at this point. And remember, this is a TEAM effort.
