For me detachment is kind of like loving a friend who has a spending problem.... you still love them but if they empty the bank account and don't have money for rent it doesn't effect your life.

That's how I looked at it. And that's how I continue to view H's life. What he does is up to him but I don't get involved.

Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction