Should I add that I had asked him months ago to meet with Jess and him without the kids to have coffee so I could get used to her but he refused. Saying again meeting with her in a neutral environment would help me deal with these other meetings.
One thing I think we need to get beyond is the need to explain ourselves. So no, I wouldn't add anything. You did not cause or make this problem, and if your xh is a big enough ass (which he demonstrably is) not to see this, explaining it again probably won't do the trick.
