Walk away Wife having affair

[Vanilla]

vets extra advice please. Should this be in newcomers?

It would be helpful to put some of this in your strap at the bottom of your profile in my stuff. You are probably on moderation so your posts take some time. Find a couple of like minded posts and ask a question, choose a poster who is two to three months ahead of you. Your strap lines will appear in your post.

I think that It is time to lay down some boundaries about OM coming to your home and being near to your children in your domain. You pay the bills on the home she lives in.?
In what ways do you feel you are empowering or enabling the affair. This may be the first places to look to seek action. To do a 180.

Please read Sandis 37 guidelines in newcomers and start looking at detachment.
This is a really hard time, I understand but you will resolve this and make steps forward by practicing DB.

Peace

Vanilla